An intimacy teacher has stressed that people should know their limits when it comes to getting freaky with themselves
A sex expert has explained there is a limit to how much you should be masturbating.
Indian intimacy educator Leeza Mangaldas has take it upon herself to try and normalize conversations about sex around the world, specifically in her home country, and in 2022 even authored a book, titled: The Sex Book: A Joyful Journey of Self Discovery.
So, it’s fair to say that the former sports reporter knows what she’s talking about.
Now, while speaking to her fans through her YouTube channel, she has revealed whether it is okay to pleasure yourself everyday.
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She said: “How much masturbation is too much masturbation? There is no single one-size-fits-all answer for this, you get to decide.
The expert has given her opinion on the matter (DMP / Getty)
“Some people may enjoy masturbating everyday, some people once a week, once a month, once a year, not at all.
“Most of us just feel guilty about masturbating at all and so we can constantly think like, ‘oh my gosh we’re doing this too much’ – even if we’re actually doing it very infrequently.”
Before touching on her beliefs about when is ‘too much’, Mangaldas added: “I think it’s just important to keep in mind that as long as it’s not getting in the way of any activities, like school or work, or your family obligations, and as long as you’re not injuring yourself – maybe you can cut back?
“But it’s good to keep things in perspective and figure out for yourself what feels good for you.”
I mean, it makes sense doesn’t it? As long as your rowdiness isn’t affecting your day-to-day life, you do what you want to do – it’s no ones business but your own.
If you pleasuring yourself isn’t disrupting your life, then crack on! (Getty stock)
Interestingly enough, Dave Asprey, the founder of so-called ‘biohacking’, has also weighed into the debate.
If you have a penis, according to Asprey there is an optimal amount of times you should be ejaculating per week, but it depends on your age.
According to an interview with health influencer Aggie, the rule is your age minus seven divided by four, and that’s the number of days that should be between ejaculations.
He said: “So I’ve studied a lot of esoteric stuff and one of the things you’ll hear from the Daoists is age in years minus seven by four, that’s the number of days that you should have between ejaculation.
“Let’s say you’re 37 minus seven, you’re down to 30 divided by four, so 30 divided by four, the potential was 28. And what that means is ejaculating once a week or less frequently and you do that to maintain your health.”
Well, there you go. Believe who you want to believe, but at the end of the day, you do you boo!Featured Image Credit: Getty stock
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Published 20:14 29 Oct 2024 GMT
Expert reveals exactly how much your body changes when you stop having sex
It’s not all bad news, don’t worry
One sex and relationship expert has lifted the lid on exactly what changes your body undergoes when you stop having sex.
Cuffing season may be well and truly upon us, but not everyone is going to be keeping warm under the covers with their partner this winter.
Now, you’ve all heard of a dry spell – and I’m sure most of you have even experienced it yourself – but other than a blow to your self-esteem, what actual changes does the body go through when Netflix and chill really means just that – albeit solo?
The science behind what happens to your body when you abstain from sex has been revealed (LumiNola / Getty Images)
Fear not as sexpert for Womanizer, Christine Rafe, has kindly broken down and revealed the science behind the changes your body does, and doesn’t, go through during a dry spell.
What happens to the body when you stop having sex?
While you may expect certain changes to occur, the actual science behind it suggests not much is changing at all.
Rafe explained: “While there are recognized physical, emotional and psychological benefits to engaging in solo or partnered sexual activity (including outercourse or non-penetrative sex), this does not mean that there are negative consequences associated with not being sexually active.”
However, experts have explained how our body does go through a process known as ‘deconditioning’ during a time when sex is not on the cards.
Don’t worry, there’s not ‘use it or lose it’ situation going on here (Maria Korneeva / Getty Images)
What is deconditioning?
Well, deconditioning basically means becoming less primed for intercourse.
Rafe explained: “In the same way we might experience a reduced confidence, muscle tightness and overall deconditioning from not exercising, people who haven’t had sex, or who stop having sex for prolonged periods may experience deconditioning to sexual activities and find that they have muscle tightness or soreness, difficulties in ejaculatory control and a loss of confidence in sexual activity.”
The sex and relationships expert did make it clear that ‘these are not long-term biological changes’, however.
Thank God for that.
We all know sex has its benefits, but if you’re not having any, that’s ok too (Flashpop / Getty Images)
What are the benefits of having sex?
We’ve long been told the benefits of having a sexually active lifestyle, and Rafe has certainly backed up those claims.
However, don’t worry if you’re not getting any this cuffing season as there are no health downsides to not having sex either.
“There is no substantive research or evidence concluding that there are negative health impacts for someone who chooses to not have sex, or to stop having sex,” Rafe explained.
The benefits you ask, though?
Well, the expert explained that when it comes to hormones, ‘the chemicals released during sexual pleasure, whether solo or with others, include oxytocin, endorphins, serotonin and dopamine’.
She added: “These are our happy/feel-good chemicals, and they can improve mood and energy levels [and] increase motivation.”
On top of that, we’ve heard all about the benefits of sex reducing stress, which can therefore impact mood and the immune system.
Happy humping everyone, or not… either is fine.Featured Image Credit: Getty Stock Images
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Published 17:10 14 Feb 2025 GMT
Expert reveals the one daily habit that is destroying your sex life and how to fix it
According to the expert, Gen Z may be suffering the most
A relationship expert has highlighted one thing that may be holding people’s sex life back – and it’s something many of us are guilty of.
With Valentine’s Day here many people use the day reflect on their love life and sexual relationships, for better or worse.
And for many, this reflection reveals that they aren’t as happy about it as they want to be, particularly when it comes to sex.
Sex therapist and relationship expert Leigh Norén emphasized the many difficulties a relationship and healthy sex life can experience.
And she noted that there is one daily habit in particular that can leave people’s lives in a not-so-sexy chokehold.
According to a sex therapist people may not be adequately addressing the sex issues in their relationship (Getty Stock Image)
Speaking to the Mirror, Norén noted that people often look for quick fixes and may not be adequately addressing the sex and intimacy issues they have.
Instead of addressing them, they may turn to social media doomscrolling and online validation rather than getting it from their partner.
She said: “People often feel bored in their relationships and stressed in general in life. We’re all stretched thin, and as a result, we’ve forgotten how to seek out and experience pleasure.
“Instead, we look for quick fixes and ways to dissociate, like scrolling through reels, watching memes, and indulging in junk food.
“It’s like we’ve all forgotten how to truly be and revel in pleasure overall, not just sexual pleasure. Life is so demanding nowadays that we often choose quick escapes instead of meaningful exchanges with our partner – therapists included!”
Speaking specifically about Gen Z she said that they may be looking at sex less rigidly as previous generations, which has its benefits.
However, she noted the massive influx of technology into everyday lives has contributed to the way people interact with one another.
Social media isn’t helping people be more intimate with one another (Getty Stock Image)
She continued: “Gen Z have grown up in a time where we’re constantly surrounded by technology.
“This means they’re seldom bored, and instead of connecting with one another sexually as people might have done in the past, they might turn to their phones for some instant kicks instead. There’s simply so much more to do than just have sex.”
But worry not, as the expert offered some relatively simple fixes that can help foster the perfect environment for a healthier outlook on sex and relationships.
For those in a relationship, she said: “Reduce stress through cuddling with your partner, and then incorporate more intimate sexual touch.
“Go on a date night and decide that practicalities are off limits, instead, reminisce about the first time you met and what drew you to one another sexually.”Featured Image Credit: Getty Images/Morsa Images
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Published 13:48 20 Apr 2025 GMT+1
Therapist reveals how porn physically changes your brain when you watch it
Studies have looked into how excessive porn use can physically change the brain
Americans are watching more porn than ever with the nation topping the global charts for Pornhub traffic in 2024, but is it doing more harm than good?
Well, in short, yes. Therapist Danielle Sukenik has been speaking about the downsides of watching porn and how viewing it can physically change your brain.
A study conducted in 2015 found men who frequently watch porn had less capacity in the brain’s area crucial for motivation and decision-making, while heavy users of sites such as PornHub were less responsive to sexual stimuli, which would likely cause problems in the bedroom.
Sukenik wrote in a piece for The Conversation: “This pattern likely results from lower connectivity between the prefrontal cortex − the decision-making part of the brain − and the reward as more porn is consumed. This in turn leads to increased cravings and impulsivity in order to achieve the previous levels of reward in the brain.”
The therapist added: “Because pornography can affect brain changes and subsequent pleasure responses, porn users may eventually feel the need to seek more extreme content.
Studies have looked into how porn can alter the brain (Getty Stock Photo)
“This pursuit, in attempts to override the chemistry of the changing brain, may lend to disruption in the person’s life, often within relationships.”
Sukenik is not the only expert to speak about how porn can impact an individual’s brain with heavy consumption.
Paul Sheppard, a mindset coach who helps folks struggling with anxiety, went viral on TikTok when he detailed what happens to the brain if a person watches too much porn.
He explained: “Here are some ways porn can f*** up your brain. And also f*** up your life.
“Too much porn can mean that your brain begins to rewire itself so that you prefer porn instead of having sex with a real person.
Porn can physically change your brain (Getty Stock Photo)
“Too much porn use has been linked to performance anxiety, erectile dysfunction, sexual inadequacy and also body image negativity.”
Sheppard went on to explain why so many find porn so addictive.
He added: “Porn is a super stimulant. In other words it boosts your dopamine levels unnaturally high. This makes it extremely addictive for some people.
“It also makes other things around you much less pleasurable because the only way you can get that really good feeling is to go back to porn.”
The anxiety coach said that symptoms brain fog, tiredness, demotivation and general intolerance could be a sign you’re watching too much porn.
“Reboot and rewire your brain by abstaining completely and do something else instead,” Sheppard advised if you’re experiencing any of these issues.Featured Image Credit: Getty Images/Pekic
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Published 15:17 14 Feb 2025 GMT
Relationship expert reveals how long you should wait to sleep with someone
Relationship expert Jacob Lucas has shared how long you should wait to have sex with potential new partner
A relationship expert has revealed how long you should be waiting to sleep with someone if you’re wanting your relationship to last long-term.
In this day and age, a large majority of people are finding their new partners through dating apps like Tinder, Hinge, or Bumble, and after connecting on such apps, the usual intention is to then meet face-to-face.
Now, you might fancy the pants off your date and be keen try before you buy after a successful first date (if you catch my gist), but relationship expert Jacob Lucas has urged singletons to hold fire when it comes to bedding their suitors.
A dating expert has revealed how long you should wait to sleep with someone (Getty Stock)
Before you even get to that point, however, you usually need the first date itself to go well.
With this in mind, speaking on behalf of FruitySlots.com, Jacob shared what topics he thinks people should stay clear of on a first date.
“Politics is a touchy subject,” he told UNILAD. “You probably shouldn’t talk about this on a first date — it can get too heated.”
He continued: “Second, don’t talk about your ex, people aren’t on a first date with you because they want to hear about your ex.
“It also suggests you might not be over them either.”
Now, suppose politics and exes aren’t brought up in conversation and the date goes well, should you sleep with them after the first meet up? Jacob says no.
Jacob Lucas is a content creator and dating coach (@jacoblucas101/Instagram)
Instead, he suggests a three-date rule.
“Sleeping with someone on the first date can sometimes put you in a tricky situation,” the dating guru, who boasts over 100,000 followers in his Instagram page, shared. “If you have a really strong connection with someone on the second date, then it could go either way. The third date is quite traditional.”
So keep it in your pants, folks.
However, Jacob did warn that if you wait too long to have sex with someone you like, it may put too much pressure on the first time you eventually sleep together, or it might lead to you friend-zoning your date.
In some additional advice, he also gave tips on red flags to look out for on someone’s dating profile.
It was reported in 2022 that over 13 percent of those using online dating platforms got engaged to or married a person they met on the apps, said Tawkify Matchmaking – so don’t give up on romance just yet, my fellow singletons.
Jacob shared what red flags to look out for on dating apps (Getty Stock)
But how do you find your future spouse in the midst of all the millions of people on dating apps? Well, there’s a handful of things to that are supposedly dating profile no-gos.
Listing them, Jacob revealed: “When they don’t put what they’re looking for [on an app]; a person often does this so they can tailor the situation to whoever they’re talking to and make out like they want the same thing, this is the most common one.”
Another red flag was overly filtered photos.
“A lot of people do this,” he shared. “Then they meet and it’s obvious they don’t look the same, and it’s sort of semi-catfishing.”
He also warned relationship hopefuls to be wary of people who only share group photos on their profiles, men who share topless photos, and someone not having a bio as it suggests that they’re ‘someone who doesn’t really care about getting to know people very well and isn’t interested in making an effort’.
May the odds be ever in your favor, friends.Featured Image Credit: Getty Stock Image
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