What fits me best?😄

Life is a giant dressing room. Every day, we try things on—careers, relationships, hobbies, even personalities—just to see what fits. Sometimes, we find something that feels just right. Other times, we wear something for years only to realize it’s not our style anymore. And that’s okay. Life isn’t about finding the perfect fit on the first try. It’s about exploring, trying things on, and laughing along the way.

I’ve often asked myself, What fits me best? And depending on the day, the season of life, or the mood I’m in, the answer changes. But the journey toward finding that answer is what makes life beautiful.

The Pressure to “Know”

From a young age, we’re asked questions like, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” It’s innocent at first. Astronaut, ballerina, superhero. But then it becomes more serious. Teacher? Engineer? Doctor? Lawyer? The world starts offering a narrow rack of options, expecting you to pick the perfect size right away.

I remember feeling lost in high school, surrounded by peers who already had clear dreams. I, on the other hand, had a mix of interests—writing, photography, helping others, making people laugh. None of them fit into a neat box. For a while, I thought something was wrong with me. Why couldn’t I just pick a path and stick to it?

But then I realized something important: I’m not meant to squeeze into someone else’s definition of a good life. I’m meant to find my fit.

Trying Things On

Finding what fits me best has meant experimenting. I tried a job in customer service—it taught me patience but drained my energy. I explored graphic design—it brought out my creativity, but the long hours in front of a screen wore me down. I even dabbled in fitness coaching because I love movement and helping others—but it didn’t feel like the full picture.

Each experience taught me something valuable. None of them were failures. They were like trying on clothes in the fitting room: “Hmm, this one’s a little too tight.” “This is nice, but not quite me.” “Oh! This one feels good—I could wear this more often.”

Trying things on takes courage. It means being okay with change, with stepping out of the familiar, and with the possibility that something may not work out. But without trying, we’d never know what could bring us joy.

Hobbies and Joy Sparks

Some of the best things that fit me have nothing to do with work. They’re the things that make me feel alive—dancing around my kitchen while cooking, writing silly poems, going for long walks without a destination, having deep conversations under the stars.

I’ve found that when I follow my curiosity—those little sparks that make my eyes light up—I discover pieces of myself I didn’t know were missing. Hobbies and creative pursuits are often overlooked in the search for “what fits,” but they’re essential. They remind me that I’m more than my job or my responsibilities—I’m a person with interests, passions, and a unique way of seeing the world.

Relationships That Fit

Finding the right people is also part of discovering what fits. There are friendships that feel effortless, like a well-worn hoodie—comfortable, supportive, and always there when you need them. And then there are relationships that pinch or pull, where you feel like you’re always adjusting who you are just to fit in.

Over time, I’ve learned that the best relationships are those where I can show up as myself—quirky, emotional, curious, sometimes unsure—and still feel accepted. The right people don’t just fit into your life; they help you grow into the best version of yourself.

Lifestyle Choices

For a long time, I thought I had to follow a traditional lifestyle—9 to 5 job, house with a white picket fence, two weeks of vacation a year. But that version of life didn’t feel like mine. I craved freedom, flexibility, time to breathe and create.

So I started asking myself what kind of rhythm fit me best. Was I a morning person or a night owl? Did I prefer the hustle of the city or the calm of nature? Did I work best in quiet spaces or busy cafés? These questions helped me shape a life that didn’t just look good on paper but felt good in my heart.

Letting Go of What Doesn’t Fit

Sometimes, the hardest part of finding what fits is letting go of what doesn’t. We hold onto things—jobs, habits, even identities—because they’re familiar or because we fear change. But just like clothes that no longer fit, those parts of our life start to feel uncomfortable, even painful.

Letting go isn’t failure. It’s growth. It’s making room for something better. It’s telling yourself, “I deserve to feel comfortable in my own life.”

It’s Okay to Change

What fits me best today may not fit me tomorrow. And that’s okay.

We change. We evolve. Just like our taste in food or music, our dreams and needs shift over time. The key is to stay curious and compassionate with ourselves. To keep checking in and asking: Does this still feel right? Am I still growing here? Does this make me smile?

Measuring Fit by Joy, Not Just Success

For a long time, I measured my life by achievements—grades, promotions, praise. But those things, while rewarding, didn’t always bring joy. Now, I measure fit by how I feel at the end of the day. Do I feel at peace? Did I laugh today? Did I do something that mattered to me?

When something fits, you know it. You stand a little taller. You breathe a little easier. You feel more…you.

Final Thoughts

So, what fits me best? I’m still figuring it out. But here’s what I know so far:

• I fit best in environments where I can be creative and honest.
• I thrive when I’m around people who inspire me and make me laugh.
• I feel most alive when I’m learning, exploring, or helping others grow.
• I need time for solitude, nature, and self-reflection.
• I’m happiest when I’m being me, not who the world expects me to be.

Life isn’t about finding one perfect fit and sticking with it forever. It’s about building a wardrobe of experiences that help us feel good in our own skin. It’s about laughing when something doesn’t fit and celebrating when something finally does.

So if you’re still figuring it out—don’t worry. You’re not alone. Keep trying, keep exploring, and most importantly, keep being you. Because that’s what fits best. 😄

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